As a mom to Irish twins, I thought life and business couldn't get any more complicated.
From signing on new clients, pumping, diapers, rolling up to meetings, logging on to webinars, and every-little-thing that comes in between - it was a crazy time (Still is actually).
But the story from this powerhouse mama, Jackie Serviss, makes my daily life feel normal. She gets it. And she is SQUASHING mom guilt in the bud because she can, and she is doing it!
This week I asked Jackie to answer my burning question "How do you overcome mom guilt?" and she lays it all out for you.
I was listening to a podcast the other week (forget which one of a million it was that I listen to), and the interviewee was talking about how most marriages, partnerships, and relationships have a ‘wow’ person and a ‘how’ person.
The wow person is someone that often consistently comes up with ideas that some may think are very wow-worthy. They think big, fast, and sometimes unrealistically. They are loud about their ideas and want to share them with the world. They are proud of how they think and believe that almost anything is possible at the moment without much research. The problem is, when that ‘world’ is their wife or husband, it can seem unbearable and can cause anxiety.
There has been a lot of buzz lately around creating a solid routine. With the likes of authors like James Clear (Atomic Habits) and Charles Duhigg (The Power of Habit) and many more writing incredible pieces on Medium (thank you Ben Hardy!), we are seeing how powerful habits can be. But many of these studies, the research and arguments focus on the morning routine as the all-important element in being successful.
I think that just as importantly, maybe even more importantly, is how you set up your morning routine for success the night before.
I first met Steffani at a summer camp for entrepreneurs (I know, how exciting, right?) She struck me as a confident, outgoing, loving and super fun woman. We hit it off right away enjoying talks and adult beverages dockside in backcountry Connecticut.
Since our first chats, she has gone on to launch her coaching business and author a best selling book as while raising two kids and living her life full out with her hubby in Chicago. Read on to learn how she overcame 'mom guilt' and what she does to avoid all the noise.
To be present, or not to be present. That is the question.
When I surveyed over 100 entrepreneur parents to ask them “What is the biggest pain point in managing a business and your family,” the top two responses were always 1) Feelings of guilt, 2) lack of being present.
[Psst -- if you haven’t yet read my other post about mom guilt, you should check it out after.]
So, I became ever more curious about this whole being present thing. Was I present? Was I demonstrating mindfulness to my kids and team? Was I even listening when my husband spoke?